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Gay Sex Counselling.
Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant), a Hampshire counsellor specialising in LGBT Sex(uality!) matters…
- Gay, bisexual or straight men with problems around sex with other men.
- Men struggling with forms of intimacy or commitment.
- Men wishing to change their sexual practices (eg unsafe sex).
Celebrating his 26th year in practice! Trusted by hundreds of clients.
Dean Richardson MNCPS (Accredited Registrant).
Registered & Accredited Member of the National Counselling Society.
Havant, Hampshire, PO9 1PF.
- Gay, bisexual or straight men with problems around sex with other men.
- Men struggling with forms of intimacy or commitment.
- Men wishing to change their sexual practices (eg unsafe sex).
Celebrating his 26th year.
Dean Richardson MNCPS (Accredited Registrant).
Havant, Hampshire, PO9 1PF.
Local Sexuality Counsellor.
It can be distressing! You're living a (reasonably?!) happy life, then something goes astray with your sex life!. For a gay or bisexual man (where sexual identity can live very much in sexual expression), it can be fricking distressing!! Suddenly you can't perform like you've needed to before.
When your sex life has been running along just fine and you encounter a new, unfamiliar problem with intimacy, who do you speak with?
I’m Dean Richardson. I’m an experienced, fully qualified private counsellor. I work with people on matters such as around their sexuality and around their sexual orientation. A Sexuality Counsellor, if you will 🙂
- Am I Straight?
- Am I Bisexual?
- Am I Gay?
- Am Something Entirely Different?
Why Trust Dean Richardson?
Professional Memberships.
- (a) Dean is a fully-qualified and very experienced professional counsellor,
- (b) Dean’s substantial experience has been verified via accreditation (actual practice now over 3,000 clinical hours),
- (c) Dean enhances his knowledge through 30 hours (minimum) annual continued professional development,
- (d) Dean adheres to the NCS Ethical Framework and the complaints & disciplinary procedures.
Does Counselling Work?
If a main aim of counselling is to reduce distress levels (by bringing understanding to counter fear and raise personal affect), then every client using counselling with Dean* experienced an improvement in their distress levels.
| Before Counselling Begins… | → | After Counselling Ends… |
|---|---|---|
| [Severe] | → | [Low Level] |
| [Moderately Severe] | → | [Mild] |
| [Moderate] | → | [Healthy] |
| [Mild] | → | [Healthy] |
Why Choose Dean Richardson as your Counsellor?
- Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCPS (Accred/Reg) is the guy you’d have a conversation with when you’ve got matters around sexuality to discuss. Don’t let the letters put you off. They show his professional membership; and even with all that experience, he’s an awfully down-to-earth bloke… he can swear and everything!
- Dean’s counselling offices are based in Central Havant (South Street) in Hampshire (United Kingdom)……which are easy to get to by bus or by car. You may park your car in front for free.
- Dean is a fully qualified (technical bit coming…) psychodynamic, systemic & cognitive-behavioural therapist,…meaning he’s good with stuff that’s hanging around from the past, and with your relationships.
- He is an accredited and registered member of the National Counselling Society and is a member of the Counselling & Psychotherapy Union of Great Britain… meaning that he’s safe, experienced and ethical, plus he’s not only answerable to a professional body in the unlikely event that you raise a serious complaint, he’s also active in improving counselling & psychotherapy services.
When an LGBT/Questioning person simply wishes to talk things through with an LGBT /Questioning Sexuality Counsellor, Dean Richardson would be that counsellor.
Benefits of Choosing Dean’s Counselling Service.
- Free car parking (outside of office hours) or access to multiple car parks within 5 minutes’ walk.
- 5 minutes drive from the A27 (Junction signposted “Emsworth” A259, but turn left at the roundabout towards Havant).
- 50 minute or 90 minute sessions available, once a week or more often as needed.
- Multiple bus routes to/from Havant’s Bus Station.
- Gay, male Registered & Accredited (NCS) counsellor, qualified & very experienced.
- Set number of sessions or more open-ended as you need.
- Affordable fees.
- Flexible rates for those who may struggle to afford private counselling costs.
Travel to Havant, Hampshire.
Am I Gay? Am I Straight?
Discovering attraction to someone of the same gender can leave you worrying: “am I gay?”. However, discovering something new that appears to be about our sexual orientation may not always be about, say, “being gay”.
An example of unconscious processes:
As human beings, our unconscious mind can hold hidden feelings and desires away from conscious thought. Sometimes, these deeply buried feelings can leak into the conscious mind. Our conscious mind, perhaps unfamiliar with such feelings, may struggle to understand what’s going on.
You might think of it like a deaf person communicating to you in sign-language… you could guess what’s being signed, but it’s in a language unfamiliar to you. You try to make your best guess.
So, your conscious mind may be making its best guess to your new feelings. Perhaps it thinks: “… ok, these feelings must mean that I’m sexually attracted to that man”. Such a guess might leave you concerned about being (becoming?) gay.
In psychodynamic counselling: when we look at the message(s) a little deeper we might find a better-fitting understanding than “I might be gay”. Perhaps another interpretation for your feelings might be: “…I’m missing closeness and/or care I used to get from the (a?) man (from long ago … dad?)” or “I’m becoming comfortable with myself that intimacy no longer has to mean sex, so I’m inviting others to come closer to me” and so on. From this, in counselling, we can be curious about what ‘the man’ or “the closeness” could be about. We broaden our understanding through conversation.
Working together can bring greater understanding, leading to much needed relief.
It is, what it is.
The above is just one example of psychodynamic counselling work. Of course, your situation will be unique to you and that’s what you and Dean will discover together.
As the American’s say: “it is what it is” ~ meaning your newly discovered sexual attractions to the same sex may be just that: a simple, sexual attraction to someone of the same gender. And you and Dean can talk about that too.
Dean’s role as a sexuality counsellor is to assist you and support you with your questions… until he becomes redundant to your needs.
Couple & Group LGBT/Q Counselling.
Dean not only works with lesbian, gay, bi and straight individuals, he also works with relationships in counselling. This means he can work with groups of people (from 2 up to around 8).
As a result of training in systemic (family) counselling, Dean can work with couples who wish to work on relationship problems.
He can also work with groups of people (eg a polyamorous relationship) about problems within their their group relationship.
Kinda handy if you’re in, say, a same-sex marriage and are having relationship conflicts.
Or if you’re in a group (business, social, polyamorous etc) and your group needs to work through some difficulties.
The low down…
Experiences with sexuality are all perfectly natural, although they may be distressing when they’re first experienced.
We have various “tags” for sexuality: fluid, static, heterosexual homosexual, bisexual, and asexual, but a tag doesn’t describe your feelings, your experiences, nor how you might deal with them.
- Dean Richardson is an affordable, private counsellor with a range of fees to match the counselling services you need.
Havant Counselling
Work: +44-(239)-298-7487
Sexuality Counselling
Appointments
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Due to a busy time few appointments are currently available. Cases do conclude from time to time and you're welcome to reserve your preferred appointments for when they become available (get in touch…).
