Contents
- 1 About Polyamorous Relationship Counselling.
- 2 A Therapy Service for Polyamorous Groups.
- 3 A Non-Normative Approach to Polyamorous Counselling.
- 4 A Distinct Approach to Relationship Counselling.
- 5 About Dean @ Havant Counselling.
- 6 Couple Counselling Fees.
- 7 Couple Counselling
- 8 Group Counselling Fees.
- 9 Group Counselling
- 10 Appointments for Counselling.
- 11 Free Appointment Notifications!
- 12 Planned Breaks.
- 13 Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…
About Polyamorous Relationship Counselling.
For when couples in a Polyamorous Arrangement need Counselling Support too.
The type of polyamorous relationship doesn’t matter, except that we’re talking about difficulties between you and one-or-more of your partners; difficulties that may benefit from some professional intervention.
It doesn’t matter if this relationship is your primary couple relationship, secondary, or another form of relationship consisting of more than two people. When you’ve searched for ally counsellors who support polyamory you have have looked at the counsellor’s website and through “Erm – does she or not?!”
Polyamorous Relationship Counselling from Dean Richardson MNCPS (Accred/Reg) would be the service you’d consider when you and one of your partners need to work through conflicts.
A Therapy Service for Polyamorous Groups.
Begin Soon
No need to wait for months. Dean is often able arrange to meet a poly couple or group within a week (sometimes two) of making first contact. As a private counsellor he often has sessions available to choose from right away.
Non Judgemental
Open ended work
It’s unlikely that your relationship is limited by time. Neither is polyamorous counselling. We’ll work to deliver just enough sessions for your relationship to make the counsellor, redundant. Then you work on remaining (and future) difficulties… together.
Suitable for…
Any adult couple that is in any form of polyamorous relationship (whether a couple, triad or greater number). You may be straight, gay, lesbian, MOM, married, intimate or platonic.
Private counselling near me serving the UK Nationwide over Zoom & Skype, plus locations in and around, Havant, Petersfield to Waterlooville, Cosham to Portsmouth & Southsea, Southampton to Chichester, Fareham to Gosport, Hayling Island, Emsworth, Westbourne, Rowland's Castle, local residents anywhere in between and regularly further afield!
A Non-Normative Approach to Polyamorous Counselling.
Dean Richardson is a fully qualified and experienced relationship counsellor.
He works as a therapist for non-traditional couple, triad (“thruple”) and greater-member relationships.
Dean does this by choosing to employ therapeutic approaches that do not make judgements about how the relationship is supposed to be (like, say, a religious form of counsellor can assume and prescribe).
- Dean does not prescribe what the normal relationship should be doing to resolve a difficulty.
- Dean does not refer to “what other relationships like yours would do is…”
In this way, polyamorous relationship counselling focuses on the group members’ own relationship to each other (not someone else’s belief about how a successful relationship ought to be).
Dean primarily employs three effective therapeutic approaches:-
- Systemic (Family/Milan Associates) – an approach that sees a couple relationship as a system (think: washing machine program). A system has processes (behaviours that make us love our partner), and triggers (things that kick off an argument). By discovering what kind of systems this couple relationship employes (intended, or accidental) the couple and Dean learn knowledge about the relationship. Knowledge brings about opportunities for change.
- Psychodynamic – an approach that recognises unconscious processes. Such processes may be related to past experiences (eg early childhood experienced being replayed in the couple), poor parental relationships, and other experiences looking for resolution. By working together the couple and Dean can discover how to resolve the conflicts and… finally… put them to rest.
- Foulksian/Facilitative – theoretical approaches to groups and how groups operate.
These extraordinarily powerful approaches do not require the relationship members to be in any form of traditional relationship, at all!
A Distinct Approach to Relationship Counselling.
I’ve included much more detail about my distinct and effective approach to relationship counselling on my main pages for couple counselling page and group counselling page.
The integrated approaches discussed there for couples (systemic / psychodynamic / foulksian etc) applies equally to relationship counselling for polyamorous relationships (whether one – or more – couples within an established poly group, or triands (“thruples”) or a greater number of members within the group.
About Dean @ Havant Counselling.
You could choose any counsellor in and around Havant, 'natch!
Yet, when you think that this may be the most personal, private and vulnerable you're going to be with someone professional, you'd probably choose:
- someone you can grow to trust,
- someone who demonstrates highly competent skills, ethics and sensitivity.
- someone who speaks plain English (rather than psychobabble),
- someone who's as happy to use base/swearing language as much (or as little) as you do,
- someone who considers himself a frank, no bullshit counsellor, particularly you when you're in need of an authentic response (rather than an "hmm"),
- someone who would become an equal part of your therapeutic partnership (e.g. doesn't just sit mostly in silence for 50 minutes).
Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCPS (Accred/Reg) - a simply private choice.
Couple Counselling Fees.
Couple Counselling
Counselling for an Adult Relationship- Suitable for individuals
- Suitable for couples
- Suitable for groups
- Payable weekly
- Available in Havant
- Available Skype/Zoom video
- 50 minute session
- 90 minute session (£125.00)
How Counselling Fees Work.
Unlike NHS services (where you have already paid through NI taxation), private counselling will cost you some money.
Couple Counselling sessions are weekly, and last for a standard 50 minutes (with the option to book 90 minute sessions if you both prefer). Although sessions are once a week (except for holidays), you may also attend more than once a week if all three of us think that this would be helpful.
Our sessions will continue one or more of us thinks that we've done enough; then we'll have a conversation about bringing our counselling work to a close.
Fees are payable on the day of our session.
You may pay your counselling fees online (e.g. by a bank transfer, credit/debit card payment or PayPal) or pay in person (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit/debit card).
Restricted Income: If I have spaces available, a lower fee is negotiable should your income make private counselling a struggle to afford. This is not charity (you still must contribute a fee) and it will involve discussing your income and expenditure with the aim to discover a rate that you can afford responsibly. I do not always have any lower-fee spaces available, so please ask when you first get in contact.
Group Counselling Fees.
Group Counselling
Counselling for a Group's Needs- Suitable for individuals
- Suitable for couples
- Suitable for groups
- Payable weekly
- Available in Havant
- Available on Skype/Zoom video
- 50 minute session
- 90 minute session
How Counselling Fees Work.
Unlike NHS services (where you have already paid through NI taxation), private counselling will cost you some money.
Group Counselling sessions are weekly, and last for a standard 90 minutes. Sessions are once a week (except for holidays). The fee shown is per individual group member / per weekly session (whether attended or missed). Groups are a minimum of 4 members and a maximum of 8 members.
Where groups are created of members known to each other (such as a polyamorous group) sessions will continue until the group decides the work is done. Other groups will agree their own method of closure.
Fees are payable on the day of our session.
You may pay your counselling fees online (e.g. by a bank transfer, credit/debit card payment or PayPal) or pay in person (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit/debit card).
Restricted Income: If I have spaces available, a lower fee is negotiable should your income make private counselling a struggle to afford. This is not charity (you still must contribute a fee) and it will involve discussing your income and expenditure with the aim to discover a rate that you can afford responsibly. I do not always have any lower-fee spaces available, so please ask when you first get in contact.
Appointments for Counselling.
NB: My Core Practice Hours are: Mondays, Wednesdays & Thursdays from noon to 9pm (last session 8pm). I am unavailable outside of these times.
Decide on your preferred Weekly Day & Time.
When you make Contact with Dean, refer to the table below for the currently available weekly appointment times. Sessions are 50 minutes in length (as standard) and can be extended to 90 minutes by prior arrangement.
Couples & Individual Video Counselling (Zoom, Skype…) | |||||||||
Monday Appointments: | 12pm | 1pm | 2pm | 3pm | 4pm | 5pm | 6pm | 7pm | 8pm |
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Tuesday Appointments: | This day is not available for bookings | ||||||||
Wednesday Appointments: | 12pm | 1pm | 2pm | 3pm | 4pm | 5pm | 6pm | 7pm | 8pm |
Waiting list available (contact me to discuss…) | |||||||||
Thursday Appointments: | 12pm | 1pm | 2pm | 3pm | 4pm | 5pm | 6pm | 7pm | 8pm |
Friday Appointments: | This day is not available for bookings | ||||||||
Weekend Appointments: | This day is not available for bookings | ||||||||
TIP:
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Day of Week | Times of Day |
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Couples & Individual Video Counselling (Zoom, Skype…) | |
Mon: | 4pm or 5pm |
Tue: | Not available |
Wed: | Waiting List (contact me) |
Thu: | 3pm-5pm |
Fri: | Not available |
W/E: | Not available |
Book your preferred appointment(s) by completing my Contact me for Counselling form… | |
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Times shown in red are regularly the first to be booked. |
Counselling sessions are (at a minimum) weekly, last for up to 50 minutes, and on the same day/time each week.
There are options for you to meet with your counsellor more than once a week.
There are also options for you to choose up to 90 minute sessions too.
(Shift-workers: my regular weekly approach & limited hours may not be able to accommodate your shift pattern very well).
Fees are due before or on the day of the session (payable online via banking app transfer, credit/debit card or PayPal, in person using cash, card or cheque [made out to Dean Richardson]).
Ending counselling: Our time together continues for as long (or as brief) as we both think it's being helpful… and when one of us thinks "maybe that's enough" we can begin to look at bringing our work to a close (it can be helpful to bring up the idea of ending counselling to talk it through, just in case our work has brought up something difficult like avoiding difficult feelings, can't say something, acting out etc). Then we'll plan how we'd like to say "goodbye".
Planned Breaks.
The following table lists the dates of my planned breaks this year (i.e. when I am not available).
- Friday 29th March 2024 to Friday 5th April 2024 (8 days).
- Monday 6th May 2024 to Sunday 12th May 2024 (7 days).
- Monday 27th May 2024 to Sunday 2nd June 2024 (7 days).
- Monday 8th July 2024 to Sunday 28th July 2024 (21 days).
- Monday 26th August 2024 to Sunday 1st September 2024 (7 days).
- Monday 7th October 2024 to Sunday 13th October 2024 (7 days).
- Monday 11th November 2024 to Sunday 17th November 2024 (7 days).
- Monday 16th December 2024 to Thursday 2nd January 2025 (18 days).
iCal Subscription
You can incorporate Dean's Planned Breaks (setting your own alerts, colours, highlights etc) into your personal, online calendar (GMail, Outlook, iCloud Calendar etc) by using the iCal protocol.
The iCal URL for Havant Counselling is: https://iCounsellor.co.uk/iCounsellorBreaks.ical
Example: Embedding iCal using Google Calendar…
- Go to your Google Calendar.
- Under the section Other Calendars click the + button (titled: Add other calendars).
- Select From URL.
- Enter this URL: https://iCounsellor.co.uk/iCounsellorBreaks.ical
- Click Add calendar.
After a few seconds Google will display "Calendar Added". You may now exit out of Settings back to your calendars to see that Dean's planned breaks have been added to your calendar. You may also customise the new calendar's colours, name, alert settings (etc) if your calendar app allows.
Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…
Got a question about Dean Richardson's counselling services in Havant (Hampshire)? Want to make contact, maybe asking about a first appointment? Send Dean a message any time…