About Polyamorous Relationship Counselling.

For when couples in a Polyamorous Arrangement need Counselling Support too.

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You may be a couple in a polyamorous relationship, whether clearly defined, a poly group that is still forming, or a couple thinking about introducing additional partners (or joining an existing poly group).

The type of polyamorous relationship doesn’t matter, except that we’re talking about difficulties between you and one of your partners; difficulties that may benefit from some professional intervention.

It doesn’t matter if this is your primary couple relationship, secondary, or another form of couple relationship. When you’ve searched for ally counsellors who support polyamory you have have looked at the counsellor’s website and through “Erm – does she or not?!”

Polyamorous Relationship Couple Counselling from Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant) would be the service you’d consider when you and one of your partners need to work through conflicts.

Havant Counselling Dean Richardson

A Therapy Service for Polyamorous Couples.

Begin Soon

No need to wait for months. Dean is often able arrange to meet a poly couple within a week (sometimes two) of making first contact. As a private counsellor he often has sessions available to choose from right away.


Non Judgemental

With non-traditional relationships, there can be a concern of experiencing judgement. Not only is Dean a poly ally, he has worked with couples in polyamorous relationships before. Dean’s approach works with a majority of adult couple relationships.


Open ended work

It’s unlikely that your relationship is limited by time. Neither is polyamorous couple counselling. We’ll work to deliver just enough sessions for your relationship to make Dean, the counsellor, redundant. Then you work on remaining (and future) difficulties… together.

Suitable for…

Any adult couple that is in any form of polyamorous relationship (whether this couple considers itself to be a primary, secondary, or other couple). You may be straight, gay, lesbian, MOM, married, intimate or platonic.

Private counselling services serving Central Havant, Petersfield to Waterlooville, Cosham to Portsmouth & Southsea, Southampton to Chichester, Fareham to Gosport, Hayling Island, Emsworth, Westbourne, Rowland's Castle, local residents anywhere in between and regularly further afield!

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A Non-Normative Approach to Polyamorous Couple Counselling.

Dean Richardson is a fully qualified and experienced couple counsellor.

He works as a therapist for non-traditional couple relationships.

Dean does this by choosing to employ therapeutic approaches that do not make judgements about how the couple’s relationship is supposed to be (like, say, a religious form of counsellor can assume and prescribe).

  • Dean does not prescribe what the normal couple should be doing to resolve a difficulty.
  • Dean does not refer to “what other couples like you would do is…”

In this way, polyamorous relationship counselling focuses on the couple’s own relationship (not someone else’s belief about how a successful relationship ought to be).

Dean primarily employs two effective therapeutic approaches:-

  • Systemic (Family/Milan Associates) – an approach that sees a couple relationship as a system (think: washing machine program). A system has processes (behaviours that make us love our partner), and triggers (things that kick off an argument). By discovering what kind of systems this couple relationship employes (intended, or accidental) the couple and Dean learn knowledge about the relationship. Knowledge brings about opportunities for change.
  • Psychodynamic – an approach that recognises unconscious processes. Such processes may be related to past experiences (eg early childhood experienced being replayed in the couple), poor parental relationships, and other experiences looking for resolution. By working together the couple and Dean can discover how to resolve the conflicts and… finally… put them to rest.

These two extraordinarily powerful approaches do not require the couple to be in any form of traditional relationship, at all!

My Distinct Approach to Couple Counselling.

I’ve included much more detail about my distinct and effective approach to couple counselling on my main couple counselling page. It’s worth a read if you’re interested in what couple work we could be doing together

About Havant Counsellor.

You could choose any counsellor in and around Havant .

Yet, when you think that this may be the most personal, private and vulnerable you're going to be with a professional, you'd choose:

  • someone you can trust,
  • someone who demonstrated highly competent skills and ethics,
  • who spoke plain English (not lots of psychobable),
  • who's as happy to swear as much as you do,
  • who makes you an equal part of the therapeutic partnership (e.g. doesn't just sit in silence, saying "Hmm" for 50 minutes)
…then you'd be interested in trying out Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant).

A simply private choice, really.

Group Counselling Fees.

How Counselling Fees Work.

Unlike NHS services (where you have already paid through NI taxation), private counselling will cost you some money.

Group Counselling sessions are weekly, and last for a standard 90 minutes. Sessions are once a week (except for holidays)The fee shown is per individual group member / per weekly session (whether attended or missed). Groups are a minimum of 4 members and a maximum of 8 members.

Where groups are created of members known to each other (such as a polyamorous group) sessions will continue until the group decides the work is done. Other groups will agree their own method of closure.

Fees are payable on the day of our session.

You may pay your counselling fees online (e.g. by a bank transfer, credit/debit card payment or PayPal) or pay in person (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit/debit card).

Restricted Income: If I have spaces available, a lower fee is negotiable should your income make private counselling a struggle to afford. This is not charity (you still must contribute a fee) and it will involve discussing your income and expenditure with the aim to discover a rate that you can afford responsibly. I do not always have any lower-fee spaces available, so please ask when you first get in contact.

Counselling Appointments.

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I offer counselling sessions from 1pm until 9pm (Monday through Friday). After you've chosen an appointment day and time this will stay with you until the end of our work. Sessions are (at a minimum) weekly and of 50 minutes. If you're beginning counselling for the first time, you may choose your preferred session day(s) and time(s) from the following table:-

Couples & Individuals (Havant, Hampshire)
Monday Appointments:Waiting list (contact me to discuss)
Tuesday Appointments:Not available
Wednesday Appointments:1pm2pm3pm4pm5pm6pm7pm8pm
Thursday Appointments:1pm2pm3pm4pm5pm6pm7pm8pm
Friday Appointments:Not available
Groups (Waterlooville, Hampshire)
Click to go to WaterloovilleCounselling.co.uk
Tuesday Appointments:Waiting list (contact me to discuss)

Couples & Individuals (Havant, Hampshire)
Mon:Waiting List (contact me)
Tue:Not Available
Wed:1pm or 3pm
Thu:6pm or 7pm
Fri:Not Available
Groups (Waterlooville, Hampshire)
Visit WaterloovilleCounselling.co.uk
Tue:Waiting List (contact me)

Waiting lists may be available for unlisted times.

NOTICE: Dean is not available from Monday 20th May to Sunday 26th May (inclusive), though he may still be available to respond to enquiries and emails.

Times in red are the most popular, and usually the first to go.

Counselling sessions are (at a minimum) weekly and on the same day and time each week.

Optionally, you may wish to come more than once a week and you can even come for longer than 50 minutes (by prior arrangement).

Our counselling work together continues for as long (or as brief) as we both think it's helpful… and then we'll look at ending.

Fees are due on the day of the session (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit & debit cards).

Ending counselling: rather than one day saying "I'm ending counselling today" it is helpful to bring up the idea of ending counselling first. Sometimes the need to end may be a mask for something else (avoiding difficult feelings, can't say something, acting out loss etc) and it can be helpful to distinguish, together, what ending may mean in our work. We'll talk about endings with some thought and some planning.

Planned Breaks.

The following table lists the dates of my planned breaks this year (i.e. when I am not available).

  • Monday 27th May 2019.
  • Wednesday 12th June 2019 to Friday 14th June 2019 (3 days).
  • Monday 15th July 2019 to Sunday 4th August 2019 (21 days).
  • Monday 26th August 2019.
  • Monday 16th September 2019 to Sunday 22nd September 2019 (7 days).
  • Monday 28th October 2019 to Sunday 3rd November 2019 (7 days).
  • Monday 16th December 2019 to Thursday 2nd January 2020 (18 days).

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