Contents
- 1 Havant Polyamorous Relationship Counselling.
- 1.1 About Polyamorous Relationship Counselling.
- 1.2 A Therapy Service for Polyamorous Groups.
- 1.3 A Non-Normative Approach to Polyamorous Counselling.
- 1.4 A Distinct Approach to Relationship Counselling.
- 1.5 About Dean @ Havant Counselling.
- 1.6 Couple Counselling Fees.
- 1.7 Couple Counselling
- 1.8 Group Counselling Fees.
- 1.9 Group Counselling
- 1.10 Appointments for Counselling.
- 1.11 Free Appointment Notifications!
- 1.12 Planned Breaks.
- 1.13 Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…
About Polyamorous Relationship Counselling.
For when couples in a Polyamorous Arrangement need Counselling Support too.
The type of polyamorous relationship doesn’t matter, except that we’re talking about difficulties between you and one-or-more of your partners; difficulties that may benefit from some professional intervention.
It doesn’t matter if this relationship is your primary couple relationship, secondary, or another form of relationship consisting of more than two people. When you’ve searched for ally counsellors who support polyamory you have have looked at the counsellor’s website and through “Erm – does she or not?!”
Polyamorous Relationship Counselling from Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred/Reg) would be the service you’d consider when you and one of your partners need to work through conflicts.
A Therapy Service for Polyamorous Groups.
Begin Soon
No need to wait for months. Dean is often able arrange to meet a poly couple or group within a week (sometimes two) of making first contact. As a private counsellor he often has sessions available to choose from right away.
Non Judgemental
Open ended work
It’s unlikely that your relationship is limited by time. Neither is polyamorous counselling. We’ll work to deliver just enough sessions for your relationship to make the counsellor, redundant. Then you work on remaining (and future) difficulties… together.
Suitable for…
Any adult couple that is in any form of polyamorous relationship (whether a couple, triad or greater number). You may be straight, gay, lesbian, MOM, married, intimate or platonic.
Private counselling near me serving locations in and around central Havant, Petersfield to Waterlooville, Cosham to Portsmouth & Southsea, Southampton to Chichester, Fareham to Gosport, Hayling Island, Emsworth, Westbourne, Rowland's Castle, local residents anywhere in between and regularly further afield!
A Non-Normative Approach to Polyamorous Counselling.
Dean Richardson is a fully qualified and experienced relationship counsellor.
He works as a therapist for non-traditional couple, triad (“thruple”) and greater-member relationships.
Dean does this by choosing to employ therapeutic approaches that do not make judgements about how the relationship is supposed to be (like, say, a religious form of counsellor can assume and prescribe).
- Dean does not prescribe what the normal relationship should be doing to resolve a difficulty.
- Dean does not refer to “what other relationships like yours would do is…”
In this way, polyamorous relationship counselling focuses on the group members’ own relationship to each other (not someone else’s belief about how a successful relationship ought to be).
Dean primarily employs three effective therapeutic approaches:-
- Systemic (Family/Milan Associates) – an approach that sees a couple relationship as a system (think: washing machine program). A system has processes (behaviours that make us love our partner), and triggers (things that kick off an argument). By discovering what kind of systems this couple relationship employes (intended, or accidental) the couple and Dean learn knowledge about the relationship. Knowledge brings about opportunities for change.
- Psychodynamic – an approach that recognises unconscious processes. Such processes may be related to past experiences (eg early childhood experienced being replayed in the couple), poor parental relationships, and other experiences looking for resolution. By working together the couple and Dean can discover how to resolve the conflicts and… finally… put them to rest.
- Foulksian/Facilitative – theoretical approaches to groups and how groups operate.
These extraordinarily powerful approaches do not require the relationship members to be in any form of traditional relationship, at all!
A Distinct Approach to Relationship Counselling.
I’ve included much more detail about my distinct and effective approach to relationship counselling on my main pages for couple counselling page and group counselling page.
The integrated approaches discussed there for couples (systemic / psychodynamic / foulksian etc) applies equally to relationship counselling for polyamorous relationships (whether one – or more – couples within an established poly group, or triands (“thruples”) or a greater number of members within the group.
About Dean @ Havant Counselling.
You could choose any counsellor in and around Havant, 'natch!
Yet, when you think that this may be the most personal, private and vulnerable you're going to be with someone professional, you'd probably choose:
- someone you can grow to trust,
- someone who demonstrates highly competent skills, ethics and sensitivity.
- someone who speaks plain English (rather than psychobabble),
- someone who's as happy to use base/swearing language as much (or as little) as you do,
- someone who considers himself a frank, no bullshit counsellor, particularly you when you're in need of an authentic response (rather than an "hmm"),
- someone who would become an equal part of your therapeutic partnership (e.g. doesn't just sit mostly in silence for 50 minutes).
Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred / Reg) - a simply private choice.
Couple Counselling Fees.
Couple Counselling
Counselling for an Adult Relationship- Suitable for individuals
- Suitable for couples
- Suitable for groups
- Payable weekly
- Available in Havant
- Available Skype/Zoom video
- 50 minute session
- 90 minute session (£100)
How Counselling Fees Work.
Unlike NHS services (where you have already paid through NI taxation), private counselling will cost you some money.
Couple Counselling sessions are weekly, and last for a standard 50 minutes (with the option to book 90 minute sessions if you both prefer). Although sessions are once a week (except for holidays), you may also attend more than once a week if all three of us think that this would be helpful.
Our sessions will continue one or more of us thinks that we've done enough; then we'll have a conversation about bringing our counselling work to a close.
Fees are payable on the day of our session.
You may pay your counselling fees online (e.g. by a bank transfer, credit/debit card payment or PayPal) or pay in person (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit/debit card).
Restricted Income: If I have spaces available, a lower fee is negotiable should your income make private counselling a struggle to afford. This is not charity (you still must contribute a fee) and it will involve discussing your income and expenditure with the aim to discover a rate that you can afford responsibly. I do not always have any lower-fee spaces available, so please ask when you first get in contact.
Group Counselling Fees.
Group Counselling
Counselling for a Group's Needs- Suitable for individuals
- Suitable for couples
- Suitable for groups
- Payable weekly
- Available in Havant
- Available on Skype/Zoom video
- 50 minute session
- 90 minute session
How Counselling Fees Work.
Unlike NHS services (where you have already paid through NI taxation), private counselling will cost you some money.
Group Counselling sessions are weekly, and last for a standard 90 minutes. Sessions are once a week (except for holidays). The fee shown is per individual group member / per weekly session (whether attended or missed). Groups are a minimum of 4 members and a maximum of 8 members.
Where groups are created of members known to each other (such as a polyamorous group) sessions will continue until the group decides the work is done. Other groups will agree their own method of closure.
Fees are payable on the day of our session.
You may pay your counselling fees online (e.g. by a bank transfer, credit/debit card payment or PayPal) or pay in person (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit/debit card).
Restricted Income: If I have spaces available, a lower fee is negotiable should your income make private counselling a struggle to afford. This is not charity (you still must contribute a fee) and it will involve discussing your income and expenditure with the aim to discover a rate that you can afford responsibly. I do not always have any lower-fee spaces available, so please ask when you first get in contact.
Appointments for Counselling.
Skype / Zoom Video Counselling
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Covid-19 Tiers, National Lockdown, Self-Isolating & Shielding (January 2021): the balance of risks and rewards continue to argue against reopening my practice's Face-to-Face service. Skype / Zoom Video Counselling Services continue uneffected, however (click for Video Services @ Havant Counselling details).My Skype/Video appointments are Mondays & Thursdays (~noon to 9pm) and Wednesdays (~noon to 4pm). Having agreed on a weekly session day/time this stays with us until we have completed our work (or there’s a need to change).
Decide on your preferred Weekly Day & Time.
Refer to the table (below) when you make Contact with Dean. It shows the weekly appointments that are currently available.
Weekly session lengths are 50 minutes (by default) but can also be of up to 90 minutes when you prefer.
| Video Counselling (Skype, Zoom…) | ||||||||||
| Monday Appointments: | 12pm | 1pm | 2pm | 3pm | 4pm | 5pm | 6pm | 7pm | 8pm | 9pm |
| Tuesday Appointments: | Not available | |||||||||
| Wednesday Appointments: | 12pm | 1pm | 2pm | 3pm | 4pm | 5pm | 6pm | 7pm | 8pm | 9pm |
| Thursday Appointments: | Waiting list (contact me to discuss) | |||||||||
| Friday Appointments: | Not available | |||||||||
| Weekend Appointments: | Not available | |||||||||
| Video Counselling (Skype, Zoom…) Visit HavantCounselling.com… | |
| Mon: | 3pm |
| Tue: | Not Available |
| Wed: | 3pm |
| Thu: | Waiting List (contact me) |
| Fri: | Not Available |
| W/E: | Not Available |
 | Book your preferred appointment(s) by completing my Contact me for Counselling form… |
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 | Waiting lists may be available for unlisted times. |
 | Times shown in red are regularly the first to be booked. |
Counselling sessions are (at a minimum) weekly, last for 50 minutes, and on the same day and time each week.
There are options for you to meet with your counsellor more than once a week.
There are options for you to choose 90 minute sessions too.
(Unfortunately my regular-counselling-sessions approach does not accommodate shift-workers very well).
Our counselling work together continues for as long (or as brief) as we both think it's helpful… and then we'll look at bringing our work to a close.
Fees are due on the day of the session (payable online via card or bank transfer, in person using cash, credit & debit cards or cheque [made out to Dean Richardson]).
Ending counselling: it can be helpful to bring up the idea of ending counselling first. Sometimes the need to end may be a mask for something else (avoiding difficult feelings, can't say something, acting out etc) and it can be helpful to distinguish, together, what ending may mean in our work. We'll talk about endings with some thought and some planning on how you might like to say goodbye.
Planned Breaks.
The following table lists the dates of my planned breaks this year (i.e. when I am not available).
- Monday 15th February 2021 to Sunday 21st February 2021 (7 days).
- Friday 2nd April 2021 to Sunday 11th April 2021 (10 days).
- Monday 3rd May 2021 to Sunday 9th May 2021 (7 days).
- Monday 31st May 2021 (Dean will be unavailable on Spring bank holiday (31 May)).
- Monday 5th July 2021 to Sunday 25th July 2021 (21 days).
- Monday 30th August 2021 to Sunday 5th September 2021 (7 days).
- Monday 18th October 2021 to Sunday 24th October 2021 (7 days).
- Monday 13th December 2021 to Sunday 2nd January 2022 (21 days).
Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…
Got a question about Dean Richardson's counselling services in Havant (Hampshire)? Want to make contact, maybe asking about a first appointment? Send Dean a message any time…