- 1 Havant Marriage Counselling.
- 1.1 About Marriage Counselling.
- 1.2 Marriage Counselling in Havant.
- 1.3 Topics Couples Discuss in Counselling.
- 1.4 Divorce Counselling.
- 1.5 Dean Richardson’s Distinct Approach to Marriage Counselling.
- 1.6 About Dean @ Havant Counselling.
- 1.7 Couple Counselling Fees.
- 1.8 Couple Counselling
- 1.9 Appointments for Counselling.
- 1.10 Free Appointment Notifications!
- 1.11 Planned Breaks.
- 1.12 Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…
Havant Marriage Counselling.
For marriages: traditional, non-traditional, creative and LGBT to resolve marital relationship conflicts.
About Marriage Counselling.
When your marriage is in conflict, and you’re both in trouble.
It can be a relief at what a professional perspective brings a relationship.
You see, although Dean is a fully qualified and experienced marriage counsellor he has an advantage that you both do not…
…he isn’t involved in your marriage in the same way you are; he is able to see the wood for the trees.
Dean avoids taking on the role of a “marriage expert”; because experts judge, prescribe and “tell”.
Dean’s therapeutic approach is to encourage curiosity (employing use of effective therapeutic frameworks) because curiosity can bring new knowledge. Knowledge brings the marriage the power to make new decisions (again).
When your marriage is struggling to exist and you’d like to bring back the happier, calmer times, Dean Richardson is the marriage counsellor for you.
A Summary of Marriage Counselling.
NHS and charity counselling services often make you wait until the next counsellor is available. Going to a private marriage counsellor, you may often have your first appointment arranged for the following week.
To be effective, marriage counselling sessions are (of a minimum) weekly. Any more time between sessions weakens the effectiveness of our work. Regular weekly sessions also help with budgeting, arranging baby-sitting, and provides a containing safe place where you may both focuses on your marriage.
Not Time Restricted
Couples’ lives together are not limited by time, so neither is marriage counselling. We’ll first clearly identify the problems, then you will have a choice: work on the problems alone, or continue to work in counselling during regular sessions.
Suitable for adult marriages in any form of marital relationship (traditional, non-traditional, gay, lesbian, same-sex etc). Marriage Counselling helps unstick the stuck – enabling you both to work together again.
Private counselling near me serving locations in and around central Havant, Petersfield to Waterlooville, Cosham to Portsmouth & Southsea, Southampton to Chichester, Fareham to Gosport, Hayling Island, Emsworth, Westbourne, Rowland's Castle, local residents anywhere in between and regularly further afield!
Marriage Counselling in Havant.
Marriage Counselling is an effective therapeutic intervention for adults: intimate marriages, platonic marriages and celibate marriages.
Marriage Counselling supports both you and your partner together in identifying and then working-through the marriage’s problem(s).
With the counsellor’s intervention, you will both be creating your own unique therapy, ideal to your unique relationship.
We stop when the marriage can make the counsellor redundant (which means you can work on the problems yourselves on your own).
Dean’s approach to marriage counselling helps the marriage not only address current problems, but also prepares the marriage to manage new conflicts in the future.
Marriage Counselling using effective systemic / psychodynamic therapeutic interventions, without reference to religious or moral rules, encourages a marriage to teach each other how to work their relationship through conflicts.
My approach to couple counselling allows me to work with all sorts of couple relationships…
- Parental/child relationships (adults only)
- Sibling relationships (brothers, sisters, twins)
- Long distance
- Co Dependent / Independent
- Dominating / Submission
What happens in Marriage Counselling?
Generally the first few sessions of couple counselling are known as an assessment.
The couple and Dean work together to discover what the relationship needs to focus upon (“the focus”).
The couple might think they know what the problems are, but often they are surprised to learn new facts as we unpack the relationship.
Some couples remain in counselling for support in working through the focus, whereas others leave counselling able to work on the focus themselves.
An aim of Dean Richardson’s couple counselling is to enable the couple to see their marriage with different eyes, listen with new ears, and feel with different approach.
The couple will discover how they can address their own problems themselves without further need of future counselling.
Topics Couples Discuss in Counselling.
Without going into the private details of couples Dean has worked with, here are some generalised topics that couples have worked through with Dean in counselling.
- Behaviour outside of the relationship's agreement (such as infidelity, sexual behaviour etc).
- Repeated arguments / unresolved discussions.
- Struggles with one partner's needs being unfulfilled (i.e. the other partner doesn't understand such needs).
- Difficulties with someone outside of the relationship threatening to expose private information about the couple.
- Incompatible needs from a partner (whether sexual, social, intimate or secret).
- Conflicts that are attributed to age differences (for example).
- Difficulties with the couple's family not seeing eye-to-eye with the couple's relationship (e.g. mixed religions, sexuality, race, colour, creed).
- Decisions about the relationship getting stuck (such as decisions that affect the family that the couple cannot agree upon).
- A difficult subject that cannot be brought up by the couple on their own (for example: gender transition, thoughts of separating, confessions).
- Sex or sexuality - difficulties expressing intimate need.
During my post-graduate training in Couples Counselling, the tutors asked a question of the class:
“Is divorce a solution to a marriage falling apart?”
Most students responded: “yes”, very few answered: “no”. Both tutors responded: “No” and “No”.
I had replied “yes” because I thought if two people in a marriage were so unhappy, then of course divorce would be the solution to the couple’s problems. Some 18 months later (when I qualified) I was no longer so sure.
A couple can regard divorce as a way to separate from their marriage and move on from the problems. However, couple counselling can effect a couple eager to identify their marital problems (including problems they hadn’t previously recognised) and then become empowered to resolve their problems together.
All the couple needs to do is to take a step into couple counselling together to find out.
Couples that separate can reconcile, and couples that reconcile can separate, all perfectly normal during the time they are in counselling. The therapy work helps the couple negotiate through trying times to a final resolution to their relationship needs.
Dean Richardson’s Distinct Approach to Marriage Counselling.
About Dean @ Havant Counselling.
You could choose any counsellor in and around Havant, 'natch!
Yet, when you think that this may be the most personal, private and vulnerable you're going to be with someone professional, you'd probably choose:
- someone you can grow to trust,
- someone who demonstrates highly competent skills, ethics and sensitivity.
- someone who speaks plain English (rather than psychobabble),
- someone who's as happy to use base/swearing language as much (or as little) as you do,
- someone who considers himself a frank, no bullshit counsellor, particularly you when you're in need of an authentic response (rather than an "hmm"),
- someone who would become an equal part of your therapeutic partnership (e.g. doesn't just sit mostly in silence for 50 minutes).
Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred / Reg) - a simply private choice.
Couple Counselling Fees.
Couple CounsellingCounselling for an Adult Relationship
- Suitable for individuals
- Suitable for couples
- Suitable for groups
- Payable weekly
- Available in Havant
- Available online video
- 50 minute session
- 90 minute session (£100)
How Counselling Fees Work.
Unlike NHS services (where you have already paid through NI taxation), private counselling will cost you some money.
Couple Counselling sessions are weekly, and last for a standard 50 minutes (with the option to book 90 minute sessions if you both prefer). Although sessions are once a week (except for holidays), you may also attend more than once a week if all three of us think that this would be helpful.
Our sessions will continue one or more of us thinks that we've done enough; then we'll have a conversation about bringing our counselling work to a close.
Fees are payable on the day of our session.
You may pay your counselling fees online (e.g. by a bank transfer, credit/debit card payment or PayPal) or pay in person (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit/debit card).
Restricted Income: If I have spaces available, a lower fee is negotiable should your income make private counselling a struggle to afford. This is not charity (you still must contribute a fee) and it will involve discussing your income and expenditure with the aim to discover a rate that you can afford responsibly. I do not always have any lower-fee spaces available, so please ask when you first get in contact.
Appointments for Counselling.
Skype & Zoom Video Counselling:Covid-19 Lockdown & Self-Isolating (August 2020): the balance of risks and rewards argue against reopening my counselling service's Face-to-Face practice for the time being. Counselling services continue to be available via video telehealth (Skype, Zoom etc) - click for full details…
My Skype/Video appointments are Mondays & Thursdays (~noon to 9pm) and Wednesdays (~noon to 4pm). Having agreed on a weekly session day/time this stays with us until we have completed our work (or there’s a need to change).
Choose your Weekly Day & Time.
Sessions times are 50 minutes (by default) or 90 minutes when available.
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|Thu:||3pm or 4pm|
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Counselling sessions are (at a minimum) weekly, last for 50 minutes, and on the same day and time each week. You may wish to come more than once a week. You may also choose a 90 minute session (by prior arrangement). Unfortunately I'm unable to support shift-workers.
Our counselling work together continues for as long (or as brief) as we both think it's helpful… and then we'll look at bringing our work to a close.
Fees are due on the day of the session (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit & debit cards).
Ending counselling: it can be helpful to bring up the idea of ending counselling first. Sometimes the need to end may be a mask for something else (avoiding difficult feelings, can't say something, acting out etc) and it can be helpful to distinguish, together, what ending may mean in our work. We'll talk about endings with some thought and some planning on how you might like to say goodbye.
The following table lists the dates of my planned breaks this year (i.e. when I am not available).
- Monday 31st August 2020 to Sunday 6th September 2020 (7 days).
- Monday 19th October 2020 to Sunday 25th October 2020 (7 days).
- Monday 14th December 2020 to Sunday 3rd January 2021 (21 days).
Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…
Got a question about Dean Richardson's counselling services in Havant (Hampshire)? Want to make contact, maybe asking about a first appointment? Send Dean a message any time…