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- 1 Havant Divorce / Separation Counselling.
About Divorce / Separation Counselling.
When your marriage is ending, and you wish to plan your separation… together.
As a Divorce Counsellor, Dean avoids taking on the role of “divorce and/or legal expert”; experts judge, prescribe and “tell” and Dean’s role is of a counsellor/mediator whose active participation is to empower the couple’s relationship so that the relationship can plan and work through the couple’s unique divorce.
Anecdotally, this process has cost some marriages less than having solicitors act & communicate on the couple’s behalf.
When your marriage has reached a stage where it must end, and you both wish to stay amicable to work through the separation together, Dean Richardson would be the divorce counsellor to consider facilitating your marriage’s end.
- How the relationship will research necessary tasks (e.g. researching legal matters for later discussion).
- How to manage separation-conflicts (e.g. when disagreements happen, how the relationship will go about resolving them).
- Children’s needs.
- How assets of the marriage (joint bank accounts, the home, pets, other assets) will be managed and/or divided.
- How personal items will be managed and/or divided (e.g. photographs, mementos).
- How important paperwork will be exchanged.
- How each of you will manage your own Divorce File (i.e. a collection of necessary paperwork).
- Whether you will engage solicitors or not (solicitors do not have to be involved if both of you are collaborating sufficiently well to file your own paperwork).
- How you will manage legal requirements (e.g. ultimately filing for divorce).
A Summary of Divorce Counselling.
No Waiting
Weekly
Not Time Restricted
Suitable for…
Private counselling near me serving the UK Nationwide over Zoom & Skype, plus locations in and around, Havant, Petersfield to Waterlooville, Cosham to Portsmouth & Southsea, Southampton to Chichester, Fareham to Gosport, Hayling Island, Emsworth, Westbourne, Rowland's Castle, local residents anywhere in between and regularly further afield!
Distinct Approach to Divorce Counselling.
- Dean's primary client is the couple's relationship (not the two individuals in the relationship). Inexperienced counsellors - or those untrained in relationship work - miss this important aspect when trying to work with a couple.
- Dean's primary aim is to become redundant: the couple can end their counselling work without thinking that they've become dependant on a counsellor; nor feeling they will have to come back for 'top up' sessions in the future.
- The couple stay only for as long as it's helping: meaning they might come to counselling for just a handful of sessions, or may choose to stay longer, until the couple can work on their relationship's needs on their own (again). Dean does not set a compulsory minimum (or maximum) period.
- The couple work with just the one therapist: and Dean practices "neutrality" which means both members of the couple will be understood by a single therapist (no risk of multiple interpretations by multiple therapists in the room). Plus? the common factors that are underlying the couple's relationship problems can be understood and communicated back to them by a single couple counsellor as a single, consistent, understandable whole.
- Dean does not solve the couple's current relationship problems. Dean is not a "Relationship Expert", doesn't promote his services as being so, and doesn't claim to have solutions and answers for the couple. Instead, Dean focuses on assisting the couple to learn and understand their own problems so that they can address and resolve matters using their own solutions.
- The couple develop their own unique approach that can be helpful for years to come. Looking at the relationship's problems as if they are a symptom of a system that has become faulty (say, like a washing machine that works until it comes time to rinse). Understanding? and then amending? the relationship's behavioural-system can help the couple understand what's at the centre of their problems. With understanding, the couple can learn to manage & resolve not only current problems? but future ones too? for themselves.
- Dean involves & immerses the couple in the counselling, rather than operating as a pseudo-advice-giving consultant with-all-the-answers.
- Dean's couple counselling approach integrates effective systemic and psychodynamic approaches. Rather than using whatever is the latest fad in therapy, Dean successfully applies methods that have been tried and tested for a long time (30+ years: systemic, 100+ years: psychodynamic). This helps the couple (through curiosity, hypothesising & modelling) learn what's happening in their relationship and then helps them develop their own 'fault' resolving strategies.
- Unlike some couple therapists who respond to questions with 'answers' (whether such generic answers can actually apply to the couple's specific relationship), Dean empowers the couple into being able to answer their own questions by understanding & resolving their own relationship-conflicts. This helps the couple become independent of the counsellor.
- Boundaries are important: the session is contained within 50 (or 90, optional) minutes, weekly, in a safe room, with the same counsellor. For example, the couple always knows that they can open up (difficult) topics but not fear getting swept up into long arguments? because the session's end time is set.
- Future "top-up" sessions become unnecessary: the couple ends counselling when they don't need the counsellor any longer. Dean doesn't "fix" the relationship for the couple, he assists the couple in learning how to fix their own relationship problems together. Added bonus: the couple uses the same techniques to manage future difficulties. Once the couple feel that they are more capable at addressing their relationship problems together, they can begin to bring couple counselling to a close without having to come back for "top-up" sessions (as if they'd somehow run out!).
About Dean @ Havant Counselling.
You could choose any counsellor in and around Havant, 'natch!
Yet, when you think that this may be the most personal, private and vulnerable you're going to be with someone professional, you'd probably choose:
- someone you can grow to trust,
- someone who demonstrates highly competent skills, ethics and sensitivity.
- someone who speaks plain English (rather than psychobabble),
- someone who's as happy to use base/swearing language as much (or as little) as you do,
- someone who considers himself a frank, no bullshit counsellor, particularly you when you're in need of an authentic response (rather than an "hmm"),
- someone who would become an equal part of your therapeutic partnership (e.g. doesn't just sit mostly in silence for 50 minutes).
Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred / Reg) - a simply private choice.
Couple Counselling Fees.
Couple Counselling
Counselling for an Adult Relationship- Suitable for individuals
- Suitable for couples
- Suitable for groups
- Payable weekly
- Available in Havant
- Available Skype/Zoom video
- 50 minute session
- 90 minute session (£125.00)
How Counselling Fees Work.
Unlike NHS services (where you have already paid through NI taxation), private counselling will cost you some money.
Couple Counselling sessions are weekly, and last for a standard 50 minutes (with the option to book 90 minute sessions if you both prefer). Although sessions are once a week (except for holidays), you may also attend more than once a week if all three of us think that this would be helpful.
Our sessions will continue one or more of us thinks that we've done enough; then we'll have a conversation about bringing our counselling work to a close.
Fees are payable on the day of our session.
You may pay your counselling fees online (e.g. by a bank transfer, credit/debit card payment or PayPal) or pay in person (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit/debit card).
Restricted Income: If I have spaces available, a lower fee is negotiable should your income make private counselling a struggle to afford. This is not charity (you still must contribute a fee) and it will involve discussing your income and expenditure with the aim to discover a rate that you can afford responsibly. I do not always have any lower-fee spaces available, so please ask when you first get in contact.
Appointments for Counselling.
NB: My Core Practice Hours are: Mondays, Wednesdays & Thursdays from noon to 9pm (last session 8pm), with Fridays reserved for groups at 5pm and 7pm. I am not available to offer appointments outside of this times.
Decide on your preferred Weekly Day & Time.
Refer to the table (below) when you make Contact with Dean. It shows the weekly appointments that are currently available.
Weekly session lengths are 50 minutes (by default) but can also be of up to 90 minutes when you prefer.
| Couple & Individual Video Counselling (Zoom, Skype…) | |||||||||
| Monday Appointments: | 12pm | 1pm | 2pm | 3pm | 4pm | 5pm | 6pm | 7pm | 8pm |
| Long Waiting List | |||||||||
| Tuesday Appointments: | Not available | ||||||||
| Wednesday Appointments: | 12pm | 1pm | 2pm | 3pm | 4pm | 5pm | 6pm | 7pm | 8pm |
| Long Waiting List | |||||||||
| Thursday Appointments: | 12pm | 1pm | 2pm | 3pm | 4pm | 5pm | 6pm | 7pm | 8pm |
| Waiting list available (contact me to discuss…) | |||||||||
| Friday Appointments: | Not available | ||||||||
| Weekend Appointments: | Not available | ||||||||
| Couple & Individual Video Counselling (Zoom, Skype…) | |
| Mon: | Long Waiting List |
| Tue: | Not Available |
| Wed: | Long Waiting List |
| Thu: | Waiting List (contact me) |
| Fri: | Not Available |
| W/E: | Not Available |
 | Book your preferred appointment(s) by completing my Contact me for Counselling form… |
 | Is your preferred appointment not available? Register now for free notifications… |
 | Due to a busy time few appointments are currently available. Cases do conclude from time to time and you're welcome to reserve your preferred appointments for when they become available (get in touch…). |
 | Times shown in red are regularly the first to be booked. |
Counselling sessions are (at a minimum) weekly, last for up to 50 minutes, and on the same day/time each week.
There are options for you to meet with your counsellor more than once a week.
There are also options for you to choose up to 90 minute sessions too.
(Shift-workers: my regular weekly approach & limited hours may not be able to accommodate your shift pattern very well).
Fees are due before or on the day of the session (payable online via banking app transfer, credit/debit card or PayPal, in person using cash, card or cheque [made out to Dean Richardson]).
Ending counselling: Our time together continues for as long (or as brief) as we both think it's being helpful… and when one of us thinks "maybe that's enough" we can begin to look at bringing our work to a close (it can be helpful to bring up the idea of ending counselling to talk it through, just in case our work has brought up something difficult like avoiding difficult feelings, can't say something, acting out etc). Then we'll plan how we'd like to say "goodbye".
Planned Breaks.
The following table lists the dates of my planned breaks this year (i.e. when I am not available).
- Monday 10th July 2023 to Sunday 30th July 2023 (21 days).
- Monday 28th August 2023 to Sunday 3rd September 2023 (7 days).
- Monday 9th October 2023 to Sunday 15th October 2023 (7 days).
- Monday 13th November 2023 to Sunday 19th November 2023 (7 days).
- Monday 18th December 2023 to Tuesday 2nd January 2024 (16 days).
iCal Subscription
You can incorporate Dean's Planned Breaks (setting your own alerts, colours, highlights etc) into your personal, online calendar (GMail, Outlook, iCloud Calendar etc) by using the iCal protocol.
The iCal URL for Havant Counselling is: https://iCounsellor.co.uk/iCounsellorBreaks.ical
Example: Embedding iCal using Google Calendar…
- Go to your Google Calendar.
- Under the section Other Calendars click the + button (titled: Add other calendars).
- Select From URL.
- Enter this URL: https://iCounsellor.co.uk/iCounsellorBreaks.ical
- Click Add calendar.
After a few seconds Google will display "Calendar Added". You may now exit out of Settings back to your calendars to see that Dean's planned breaks have been added to your calendar. You may also customise the new calendar's colours, name, alert settings (etc) if your calendar app allows.
Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…
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