About Counselling for Blokes.

As a bloke, sometimes you just want to talk with another bloke.

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It’s true, that a majority of counsellors are female, and as a bloke sometimes we feel more comfortable discussing private matters with our feminine counterpart.

But sometimes a bloke feels more comfortable talking about some of the serious stuff with another bloke.

Dean Richardson… he’s a bloke!

Havant counselling for menCounselling isn’t all tears, emotions, grabbing another tissue and confessing why we’re feeling such a failure. Some of us therapists know that people are made up of thoughts, behaviour, somatics and our bodies doing shittily odd things… as well as emotions.

It can take a hell of a lot of courage to make contact with the counsellor, and walk into his office ready to talk through life’s tough crap.

Men thinking about counselling may be happy to learn that Dean Richardson works in a kind of partnership with them; it helps both blokes in the room to find comprehension and (re)solutions that work.

Whilst there still may be truth in the phrase: “Men Think, Women Feel”, counselling for blokes can be about finding stuff that works… when it hasn’t been working all that well lately.

Counselling for Men Summary.

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Blokes

Suitable for a bloke who wants to talk in confidence about the shit he can’t go into with his mates down the pub. And who wants to meet with another bloke in an all-male setting.

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Brief or Longer

Some blokes work fast, and some want more time. Dean’s service is not limited by time nor a set number of sessions. We can be creative together and decide as we go along, or set a number of sessions up front.

Weekly

As a minimum, counselling will be 50 minutes each week. But you may come more often and there are 90 minute sessions. It’s about catering for a wide rage of blokes’ needs.

Begin Soon

When you contact your GP, or telephone your local charity counselling service, you will often find you have to wait for weeks… or months. Meeting with Dean can be as soon as next week.

What is Bloke Counselling?

Where a bloke can be himself.

As men, when we have a tonne of crap on our shoulders, sometimes society expects us to shut up and carry on.

We need a break.

Counselling for Blokes can be a place where a man can be just himself, work through a bit of stuff, and then go home.

In counselling, a man doesn’t have to cater for others needs. He doesn’t have to remember to bring home the shopping, get the baby’s nappies, bring home an anniversary gift (that he forgot again), doesn’t have to be politically correct or watch his language.

Sometimes, a man needs a place where he can give up the stereotypical macho appearance he thinks is expected of him.

Counselling Tools for Men.

Let’s face it – we’re just plain old blokes.

IN the way distant past, our jobs were to go out and kill Woolly Mammoths to feed the family. We didn’t need to understand things from the Mammoth’s point of view.

In the present day, some of us men can be left a bit puzzled as to:-

  • why our partner has become annoyed with us,
  • why the kids are making us have a headache again,
  • why our boss has just unloaded a shit load of pain on us, why we can’t sleep at night,
  • why we’re get addicted to bad stuff and
  • why sometimes we get irrational pains in our chests, can’t breath, and we think we’re dying (sometimes called a ‘panic attack’).

Dean’s “Bloke” Approach to Counselling.

How does this strike you?

  • 63% of Dean Richardson’s clients (2012-2013) were male (during summer 2015, 100% of clients were male).
  • Everyone who goes to counselling is in need of some assistance; a professional service (think: doctor, dentist, solicitor, estate agent…). Counselling is not about going because of being a failure 😉
  • Counselling can be brief – just a couple of sessions can be just enough to get back on your feet again.
  • Knowledge: in counselling, we’ll shed some understanding on some of the odd behaviour that might be going on around you. Helping us to make sense of things.
  • Cognitive / Somatic / Behavioural / Feelings: we’ll look at matters going on for you from a 360° perspective (not just “feelings”).
  • We’ll aim to get you back on your feet soon… then we’ll prepare to say “bye!”.

Dean rarely sits in total silence for the whole session (or just “hmm”‘s). He doesn’t ask you to fill in forms, give you tests, ask you to paint your feelings, waft scarves in the air, look at ink blots or makes you talk about stuff that you really don’t want to.

It’s pretty much two men, sat in chairs, having a conversation… but with a specific & helpful purpose.

Why do Men choose Counselling?

Let’s face it – you’re an intelligent bloke. You’re interested in learning what’s going on for you. Why would you be reading this page if not? So why do men come into counselling?

Anger / Rage

Not anger management as such; instead we’ll look at your anger as being a form of communication… a form of acting out something that is not yet understood or expressed in words. We’ll try to learn what fuels your anger in order to loosen its grip on you and to give you some choices how you respond.

Depression

We’re blokes. We get up, we work, we (sometimes) achieve goals, we go home. When something knocks us off our feet we might call it MAN FLU! So when depression kicks in, many of us don’t know what it is, nor how to deal with it.

Taking anti-depressants can mask the symptoms of depression, but they don’t address the cause.

Using our heads

As blokes, we can tend to ‘act’ and ‘think’ rather than “feel”. Differences between emotions and thoughts: if I ask you “how do you feel” and your answer is to describe your behaviour, perhaps feelings are a foreign language.

gender

Sometimes, some of our thoughts, our feelings and our behaviour might make us believe we’re becoming something “men aren’t supposed to do”. Quite different from male-to-female (MTF) and female-to-male (FTM) gender reassignment, or being “gay”, as blokes we can learn the language our heads speak in.

Relationships

Assistance in helping you understand what might be going wrong in your marriage/partnership… and how to change things.

We can talk about why your mates always seem to end up telling you to ‘fuck off’, or why each of your new relationships keep ending suddenly, or why it’s harder for you to just get along with those other people who seem to have so much baggage nowadays.

Violence / Bullying

If physical violence is a major headache (harming you or others) we’ll work out ways to help you continue to be angry, but without hurting. Then we can look at the anger itself.

If violence is related to bullying (whether you or someone else is the bully) , we can talk about what’s behind the behaviour and how to bypass & interrupt the process.

Business Behavioural Skills.

Corporate workplaces can lead our stress levels to climb. It appears to us that only those working 24/7/365 get promoted and we can’t give that amount of effort. We can talk about how to manage your needs so that you might work in a way that fits much better with how you’re built.

Sexuality

The number of ‘modern’ men today seem to have no problem about their fluid-sexuality, It seems that every week someone famous tells us about their non-standard sexuality. Is it really non-standard? We can talk together about any sexuality confusion you may be having to help you understand, come to terms, and find peace with it.

My Bloke-Guarantee.

As a counsellor, I have worked with many different men in counselling.

You might not be surprised that several men were sceptical!

“my wife told me to go”,
“some really odd things have been happening to me”,
“I don’t understand why life is so shit”,
“how can you help?”.

My counselling approach isn’t done to you. It’s a partnership (a sort of temporary kind of friendship or alliance) between you and I that makes it work.

My Guarentee Includes

  • I won’t sit for 50 minutes in silence (or just saying ‘hmmm’).
  • I will answer your questions.
  • I won’t fuck around with your head, and whilst sometimes I might ask something, or say something, that leaves you thinking: ‘shit, that was a bit harsh, mate!’ I will always be up for feedback and to talk about what made it seem harsh to you.
  • I won’t make you talk about stuff you’re not ready to… at least nor ready yet.
  • I won’t make you feel as though you’re mental, insane, or anything less than the man you are.
Try Dean out for just one session, and then make your mind up.

About Havant Counsellor.

You could choose any Havant counsellor.

Yet, when you think that this may be the most personal, private and vulnerable you're going to be with a professional, you'd choose:

  • someone you can trust,
  • someone who demonstrated highly competent skills and ethics,
  • who spoke plain English (not lots of psychobable),
  • who's as happy to swear as much as you do,
  • who makes you an equal part of the therapeutic partnership (e.g. doesn't just sit in silence, saying "Hmm" for 50 minutes)
…then you'd be interested in trying out Dean Richardson MNCS(Acc) MBACP(Accred).

A simply private choice, really.

Costs for Bloke Counselling.

How my counselling fees work.

Unlike NHS services (where you have already paid through NI taxation), private counselling will cost you some money.

Counselling sessions last for a standard 50 minutes (optional 90 minute sessions are available) and recur weekly (sometimes multiple times a week if we both think this is appropriate).

We’ll work until either of us thinks that we’re done… then we’ll ahve a conversation about ending.

Counselling fees are payable on the day of our session.

You may pay your counselling fees online (eg by a bank transfer, credit/debit card payment or PayPal) or pay in person (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit/debit card).

In some circumstances, a lower fee may be negotiable if your income makes private counselling a struggle to afford, and if I have places available. I may not always have any low-fees spaces available, but please ask…

Counselling Appointments.

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I offer counselling sessions from 1pm until 9pm (Monday through Friday). After you've chosen an appointment day and time this will stay with you until the end of our work. Sessions are (at a minimum) weekly and of 50 minutes. If you're beginning counselling for the first time, you may choose your preferred session day(s) and time(s) from the following table:-

Couples & Individuals (Havant, Hampshire)
Monday Appointments:1pm2pm3pm4pm5pm6pm7pm8pm
Tuesday Appointments:Not available
Wednesday Appointments:Waiting list
Thursday Appointments:1pm2pm3pm4pm5pm6pm7pm8pm
Friday Appointments:Fully booked
Groups (Waterlooville, Hampshire)
Click to go to WaterloovilleCounselling.co.uk
Tuesday Appointments:1pm2pm3pm4pm5pm6pm7pm8pm
Couples & Individuals (Havant, Hampshire)
Mon:6pm
Tue:Not Available
Wed:Waiting List
Thu:5pm
Fri:Fully booked
Groups (Waterlooville, Hampshire)
Visit WaterloovilleCounselling.co.uk
Tue:1pm, 2pm, 6pm or 7pm

Waiting lists may be available for unlisted times.

Times in red are the most popular, and usually the first to go.

Counselling sessions are (at a minimum) weekly and on the same day and time each week.

Optionally, you may wish to come more than once a week and you can even come for longer than 50 minutes (by prior arrangement).

Our counselling work together continues for as long (or as brief) as we both think it's helpful… and then we'll look at ending.

Fees are due on the day of the session (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit & debit cards).

Ending counselling: rather than one day saying "I'm ending counselling today" it is helpful to bring up the idea of ending counselling first. Sometimes the need to end may be a mask for something else (avoiding difficult feelings, can't say something, acting out loss etc) and it can be helpful to distinguish, together, what ending may mean in our work. We'll talk about endings with some thought and some planning.

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