- 1 Havant Couple Relationship Counselling
- 1.1 About Couple Counselling.
- 1.2 Marriage / Relationship / Couple Counselling.
- 1.3 Dean’s Distinct Approach to Couple Counselling.
- 1.4 About Havant Counsellor.
- 1.5 Couple Counselling Session Fees.
- 1.6 Couple Counselling
- 1.7 Counselling Appointments.
- 1.8 Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…
Havant Couple Relationship CounsellingFor couples: intimate & platonic, friends or business, to resolve conflicts.
About Couple Counselling.
When you’re both in trouble, and your relationship is in conflict.
It can be a relief at what a different perspective brings.
You see, although Dean is a fully qualified and experienced couple counsellor he has an advantage that you both do not…
…he isn’t involved in your relationship; he is able to see the wood for the trees.
Dean avoids taking on the role of a “relationship expert”; because experts judge, prescribe and “tell”.
Dean’s therapeutic approach is to encourage curiosity (employing a bucket load of therapeutic frameworks) because curiosity can bring new knowledge. Knowledge brings the couple the power to make new decisions (again).
When your relationship is struggling to exist and you’d like to bring back the happier, calmer times, Dean Richardson MNCS(Acc) MBACP(Accred) is the couple counsellor for you.
Couple Counselling Summary.
NHS and charity counselling services often make you wait until the next counsellor is available. Going to a private couple counsellor, you may often have your first appointment arranged for the next week.
To be effective, couple counselling sessions are (of a minimum) weekly. Any more time between sessions will weaken the therapy work. Regular weekly sessions also help with budgeting, arranging baby-sitting, and provides a containing sanctuary where you may both focuses on your relationship in safety.
Couples’ lives together are not limited by time, so neither is couple counselling. We’ll first clearly identify the problems, then you will have a choice: work on the problems alone, or continue to work in counselling during regular sessions.
Suitable for adult couples in any form of relationship (marital, intimate, business, social, neighbours). Couple Counselling helps unstick the stuck – enabling you both to work together again.
Marriage / Relationship / Couple Counselling.
Couple Counselling is an effective therapeutic intervention for adult marriages, intimate couples, platonic couples and social couples (e.g. friends, flatmates, neighbours).
Couple Counselling supports both you and your partner together in identifying and then working-through the relationship’s problem(s).
With the counsellor’s intervention, you will both be creating your own unique therapy, ideal to your unique relationship.
We stop when the couple can make the counsellor redundant (which means you can work on the problems yourselves on your own).
Dean’s approach to couple counselling helps the couple not only address current problems, but also prepares the couple to manage new conflicts in the future.
Couple Counselling using effective systemic / psychodynamic therapeutic interventions, without reference to religious or moral rules, encourages a couple to teach each other how to work their relationship through conflicts.
My approach to couple counselling allows me to work with all sorts of couple relationships…
- Parental/child relationships (adults only)
- Sibling relationships (brothers, sisters, twins)
- Long distance
- Co Dependent / Independent
- Dominating / Submission
What happens in Couple Counselling?
Generally the first few sessions of couple counselling are known as an assessment.
The couple and Dean work together to discover what the relationship needs to focus upon (“the focus”).
The couple might think they know what the problems are, but often they are surprised to learn new facts as we unpack the relationship.
Some couples remain in counselling for support in working through the focus, whereas others leave counselling able to work on the focus themselves.
An aim of Dean Richardson’s couple counselling is to enable the couple to see their relationship with different eyes, listen with new ears, and feel with different approach.
The couple will discover how they can address their own problems themselves without further need of future counselling.
Dean’s Distinct Approach to Couple Counselling.
- Dean's primary client is the couple's relationship (not the two individuals in the relationship). Inexperienced counsellors - or those untrained in relationship work - miss this important aspect when trying to work with a couple.
- Dean's primary aim is to become redundant: the couple can end their counselling work without thinking that they've become dependant on a counsellor; nor feeling they will have to come back for 'top up' sessions in the future.
- The couple stay only for as long as it's helping: meaning they might come to counselling for just a handful of sessions, or may choose to stay longer, until the couple can work on their relationship's needs on their own (again). Dean does not set a compulsory minimum (or maximum) period.
- The couple work with just the one therapist: and Dean practices "neutrality" which means both members of the couple will be understood by a single therapist (no risk of multiple interpretations by multiple therapists in the room). Plus? the common factors that are underlying the couple's relationship problems can be understood and communicated back to them by a single couple counsellor as a single, consistent, understandable whole.
- Dean does not solve the couple's current relationship problems. Dean is not a "Relationship Expert", doesn't promote his services as being so, and doesn't claim to have solutions and answers for the couple. Instead, Dean focuses on assisting the couple to learn and understand their own problems so that they can address and resolve matters using their own solutions.
- The couple develop their own unique approach that can be helpful for years to come. Looking at the relationship's problems as if they are a symptom of a system that has become faulty (say, like a washing machine that works until it comes time to rinse). Understanding? and then amending? the relationship's behavioural-system can help the couple understand what's at the centre of their problems. With understanding, the couple can learn to manage & resolve not only current problems? but future ones too? for themselves.
- Dean involves & immerses the couple in the counselling, rather than operating as a pseudo-advice-giving consultant with-all-the-answers.
- Dean's couple counselling approach integrates effective systemic and psychodynamic approaches. Rather than using whatever is the latest fad in therapy, Dean successfully applies methods that have been tried and tested for a long time (30+ years: systemic, 100+ years: psychodynamic). This helps the couple (through curiosity, hypothesising & modelling) learn what's happening in their relationship and then helps them develop their own 'fault' resolving strategies.
- Unlike some couple therapists who respond to questions with 'answers' (whether such generic answers can actually apply to the couple's specific relationship), Dean empowers the couple into being able to answer their own questions by understanding & resolving their own relationship-conflicts. This helps the couple become independent of the counsellor.
- Boundaries are important: the session is contained within 50 (or 90, optional) minutes, weekly, in a safe room, with the same counsellor. For example, the couple always knows that they can open up (difficult) topics but not fear getting swept up into long arguments? because the session's end time is set.
- Future "top-up" sessions become unnecessary: the couple ends counselling when they don't need the counsellor any longer. Dean doesn't "fix" the relationship for the couple, he assists the couple in learning how to fix their own relationship problems together. Added bonus: the couple uses the same techniques to manage future difficulties. Once the couple feel that they are more capable at addressing their relationship problems together, they can begin to bring couple counselling to a close without having to come back for "top-up" sessions (as if they'd somehow run out!).
About Havant Counsellor.
You could choose any Havant counsellor.
Yet, when you think that this may be the most personal, private and vulnerable you're going to be with a professional, you'd choose:
- someone you can trust,
- someone who demonstrated highly competent skills and ethics,
- who spoke plain English (not lots of psychobable),
- who's as happy to swear as much as you do,
- who makes you an equal part of the therapeutic partnership (e.g. doesn't just sit in silence, saying "Hmm" for 50 minutes)…
A simply private choice, really.
Couple Counselling Session Fees.
Couple CounsellingCounselling for an Adult Relationship
- Suitable for individuals
- Suitable for couples
- Suitable for groups
- Payable weekly
- Available in Havant
- Available online video
- 50 minute session
- 90 minute session (£100)
How my counselling fees work
Unlike NHS services (where you have already paid through NI taxation), private counselling will cost you some money.
Couple Counselling sessions last for a standard 50 minutes (with optional 90 minute sessions also being available). Sessions are weekly, although you may also attend more than once a week if we both think this would be helpful.
We’ll work until one or more of us thinks we’re done, then we’ll have a conversation about ending.
Couple Counselling fees are payable on the day of our session.
You may pay your counselling fees online (eg by a bank transfer, credit/debit card payment or PayPal) or pay in person (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit/debit card).
In some circumstances, a lower fee may be negotiable if your income makes private counselling a struggle to afford, and if I have places available. I may not always have any low-fees spaces available, but please ask…
|Couples & Individuals (Havant, Hampshire)|
|Tuesday Appointments:||Not available|
|Wednesday Appointments:||Waiting list|
|Friday Appointments:||Fully booked|
|Groups (Waterlooville, Hampshire)|
Click to go to WaterloovilleCounselling.co.uk…
|Couples & Individuals (Havant, Hampshire)|
|Groups (Waterlooville, Hampshire)|
|Tue:||1pm, 2pm, 6pm or 7pm|
Counselling sessions are (at a minimum) weekly and on the same day and time each week.
Optionally, you may wish to come more than once a week and you can even come for longer than 50 minutes (by prior arrangement).
Our counselling work together continues for as long (or as brief) as we both think it's helpful… and then we'll look at ending.
Fees are due on the day of the session (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit & debit cards).
Ending counselling: rather than one day saying "I'm ending counselling today" it is helpful to bring up the idea of ending counselling first. Sometimes the need to end may be a mask for something else (avoiding difficult feelings, can't say something, acting out loss etc) and it can be helpful to distinguish, together, what ending may mean in our work. We'll talk about endings with some thought and some planning.